Sometimes we hold on because we think that what we have, no matter how bad it may be, is better than the unknown. We get comfortable in our mess and rather than make the effort to let go and move on, we repeatedly try to convince ourselves that tomorrow things will be different and we hold on even tighter. I once read a quote that said, “Crazy is doing the same thing over and over again, yet expecting a different result”. It’s not going to change! We cannot control people or situations, well add this other fact, we cannot change people. No matter what you think, a leopard does not change its spots. Oh, but he or she was so nice when we first met and now they’ve changed. I hate to break it to you, they did not change and you were deceived.
Letting go is also very difficult especially when it comes to dreams, but sometimes you have to face the harsh reality that those were not what God had in store for you and it’s only when you let go and free your hands that you can receive the many blessings that He has for you. You also cannot fully embrace God if you are busy holding on to something or someone who he has not anointed for you. Remember, there is a season for everything and sometimes to get to the next stage in your journey, you have to leave some people or things behind. Still many people struggle with letting go because they fear being alone. No one likes to be alone and worse, no one likes to feel lonely; however, I firmly believe that those options are more appealing than hanging on to a situation or person that steals your peace or joy and if you believe in God you are never alone.
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How true. The one thing I have learned in watching family or friends in this situation is not to be judgmental. People hold on for so many reasons. You know what they say, until we walk a mile in one’s shoes…….Unfortunately, sometimes this is all the person that is holding on knows, the bad behavior that is now their life is all they know, so they believe that’s the way it is supposed to be. Sometimes low self esteem keeps one holding on. Changing someone – we must understand that we don’t have that power to change anyone. If someone is going to change it is solely their decision (with the help of God). We cannot make a person into someone they are not; instead, work on changing yourself so you get to a place where the things you once thought were ok, you now know that they aren’t.