It is not what people tell us that has the greatest impact on our lives; it is what we tell ourselves. If you do not believe that you are beautiful, successful, thin, or whatever it is that you think you are not, then someone telling you so is not going to make a difference until you believe so too. I have proven that to myself a thousand times. Sadly, in an effort to seek that “thing”, we go to extremes only to realize that now we have to undo the damage that we did by not realizing in the first place that we always had that ”thing”.
Acceptance, Oxford dictionary defines it as “agreement with or belief in an idea or explanation”. Yet, so often, we fail to accept what is in front of us. Why is that?
Why, because everyone has their own definition of reality. Sad but true, our underlying beliefs and experiences tarnish our perception of reality.
Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, “I am too fat, ugly, or not smart enough”? Despite the evidence to the contrary, many people who are slim, beautiful and smart believe that they are not. The end result is that they put themselves through hoops trying to gain that which they already have and when they fail to achieve what they so desperately want, their frustration mounts and negative emotions set in.
You are what you think and if you think you are not, then you will become what you think. Thus, in light of this realization, one must learn to negate the validity of their erroneous thoughts.
How do you change your mind-set?
- Examine the evidence that you have objectively.
- Love who you are right now, no matter your perception. Loving yourself means treating yourself with kindness and compassion.
- Allow for the fact that you are human and will occasionally make mistakes.
- Stop beating yourself up for those past mistakes.
Change is never easy; however, it is a lot easier when armed with the facts!
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